This week was a little challenging for me since I ended up acquiring a virus from one of the kiddos that I treated. Not a fun virus by any means. It put me flat on my back (at least some of the time) in my bed. Totally exhausted and weak as a kitten I rested quietly. Thinking it might be a good idea to have our pooch join me so that she could rest with me and enjoy some company for a change, I let her join me on top of the bed. As I rested she would come and go. During her time when she was gone for a while she came bounding in, jumped on the bed with something quite large in her mouth. I assumed it was one of her toys or bones, oh, but NO! She had brought me a present that she was very proud of, a DEAD RABBIT!! Once I realized what was lying on my bed I of course screamed and tried to convince her to take it back or whatever she wanted, but get it out of my sight. (not a delightful sight when you have a stomach flu). Of course she did not understand and looked at me pitifully as I screamed and showed much displeasure at her gift! Eventually I got brave enough to go get the dustpan from downstairs and scooped the rabbit up in it very carefully as to not to touch it and quickly took it out the front door hoping some animal would delight in carrying it away. (Apparently they did, because by that evening when John came home the animal was gone.)
Notice I say many, I have a lot of girlfriends that really love this sort of thing. But to many women this says “Honey, can you work a little harder to keep the house clean?” I know, I know, that’s not what is meant at all, but that is the way a woman will interpret. Especially if she has some insecurities about her housekeeping abilities. Just as Bailey wanted to please me with a wonderful gift of a rabbit, guys try to please us. It’s a problem on both ends. I guess the way we as women should look at it is, “Let’s find the good in it!” When you find the good in a vacuum, it might be ” he wanted me to have an easier time with the housework, or he wanted to get me something really practical, or maybe this means he will do the vacuuming since he likes cool machines”. Is it really worth it to get angry about it?
Languages” by Dr. Gary Chapman. Maybe it would be a good idea to read that and study your spouse to see what their love language might be. I am very blessed because for twenty-three years John says “I’ve studied you” and actually he does quite well.