If you know me you know how passionate I feel about marriage and how it effects our children. We are seeing more and more research that demonstrates this. Several colleagues have questioned my desire to check with a family about how their marriage is doing. They have expressed that this is not part of the anticipatory guidance that is needed for a child or that this is getting too personal and it’s really none of a healthcare provider’s business to ask these questions. A healthcare provider should focus only on the patient’s health and it’s inappropriate to ask anything else. Well, I am proposing that this is one of the MOST important ways to determine how the child is doing.
provider would be a good resource for finding help for the children emotionally. Unfortunately, my provider had no clue. Most medical providers a very much trusted by their clients, so much so that they will reveal very intimate information that may not be revealed to anyone else. If they are trusted this much don’t you think it’s pretty important to encourage them to get good information or to refer to good resources to prevent the problems that troubled relationships can have.
a medical problem. There were just a very few that were willing to challenge their patients on their smoking habits. Other colleagues would scoff and seem to think it wasn’t a problem. But look what we have now. There are tobacco quit lines, all kinds of stop smoking classes and devices, because we found out it does effect our heath and life expectancy and the money we pay out for our medical insurance.
would not address the weight of their patients. I remember a friend of mine being so offended because her physician labeled her as obese. But it needed to be said. We as healthcare providers need to be pointing out where people can improve their health. We are not doing what we are expected to do if we don’t address the issues. But the majority of providers will not ask the question, “How’s your marriage doing?” or “Are you two married? why not?” That might be too uncomfortable, it might offend someone, it might make them leave the practice. I believe that most people want to know what they can do to improve their health. But you have to say it in a way that it can be accepted. Just as saying your fat can prove to be ineffective, you can’t ask any personal question without being upfront and honest but doing it in love.