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The Thief in My Marriage by Katie Walker

  • The Thief in My Marriage  by Katie Walker
  • The Thief in My Marriage  by Katie Walker


Apr 2016


Let’s get Vulnerable!

thief_in_the_nightThieves.  Every marriage has them. The thing that takes our time from our spouse. Most of the time its a necessity with a miss placed priority level. God recently opened my eyes to my thief, sleep. Yes, sleep is a necessity and just having a baby its more a priority than normal. However, my husband will be the first to tell you that from the time we met I love sleep and is often top priority in my life. Sleep is my addiction. There are mornings I wake up and count the hours until I can sleep again, I crave it, and I am not a nice wife without it. But, it shouldn’t being stealing time from my marriage. 

 My husband and I recently celebrated my 31st birthday, 18 days after having my second child. Needless to say we were both in need of sleep, but we took the chance to go on a date. While we were out the topic of going home to catch up on some sleep while my mother kept our daughters came up more than once. That is when God revealed to me how often I sacrifice sleep for so many things, but when it comes to my husband I expect that he will understand. That’s when it hit me. If I can sacrifice sleep for my daughters, work, cleaning the house; I can sacrifice it for more time with my husband.

Have you ever put yourself in your spouses shoes? Imagined what it feels like when you  allow your thief to steal that time from them? I did o-MOM-STRESS-WORKING-MOM-WORKING-MOMS-facebookthe other day. It’s quite humbling and eye opening.

So what is YOUR thief? What is it in your life that you allow to steal time away from your spouse? Let’s be honest everyone has one, even you.  

Is it work, children, cleaning, friends, family, a hobby, an addiction? Most of these things are important and have their time and place. And most of these things have moments when they need to take precedent over everything else in life. But that should not be the norm because no matter what your thief may be or how innocent it may seem, it has the potential to kill and destroy your marriage as much or more than anything else in this world….

date night logo 3So do you have the courage to admit your thief? And if so, what are you willing to do about it?

Is it easy to change? No. But is you marriage worth the effort? ALWAYS.

2 Responses to “The Thief in My Marriage by Katie Walker”

  1. Name

    Beautifully written and so true. My thief is my work. I am learning to come home earlier, and dictate charts after my husband goes to bed, so Ican at least see him for a short time.

    • Kathy Schleier

      That’s a great compromise! Making those little moments count is so very important and letting them know how much they matter to you.

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