Family Frameworks

I Think I Have a Broken Heart



Feb 2014


Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.

Maya Angelou

I think I have a Broken Heart, but I have hope.

This week, I have struggled.  I have struggled with several things, but most of all I have heard of failing marriages.  I hear of couples that after 4-5 years give up.  They get all upset about the break ups but they aren’t willing to do what it takes to get the relationship back on track.  Or they think because their spouse won’t participate they just give up.

I’m not sure why, but that gives me a pit in my stomach and I get mad!! I want to go and punch something when that happens.  Then I want to go and just have a good cry, and I rarely cry with actual tears.  But today I did!  I feel so overwhelmed some times and think what can we do to give these people hope so they won’t stop fighting for the family?! What can I do differently?!! How can we get the word out so people will have a better idea about how to get things back on track.  My heart hurts for them, they really don’t know and don’t know how and sometimes don’t have the energy to fight.

Then I sit back and I think, I pray, then I want to go walk around something and just pray and pray and pray!! Cause I feel alone!! I feel like I’m the only one that feels like this.  Then I think, well, maybe it’s hopeless.  Maybe I should give up and just let everyone be and go off and travel and have fun with my friends.

But then reality hits again, and I hear this still small voice inside me, “I’m giving you a broken heart!! Because when I give you a broken heart, I know you get angry, and you won’t give up!!! So just know you aren’t alone and KEEP going!!” Psalm 34:18 ” The Lord is close the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. ”

So, here I am again, sitting upright and putting my thoughts, my feelings, my concerns and desires, onto paper.  I don’t know who if anyone will read and hear, but God knows.

I have a friend that knows the passion of my heart.  My friend Greg Griffin also has a passion and love for helping to change this situation of broken families.  He is working so hard to make a difference down at the capital.  He is working on a bill that can help to slow the divorce process down.  It is also one that will present what will happen to the children if you choose to divorce.  I SO believe in this bill.

I had an incident just the other day in which a precious girl,  that I have known since she was born, was given divorce papers from her husband.  They have been separated for a little while, they don’t have children and he has no desire to work on the marriage.  She was devastated when he first wanted to separated, but when she got the papers she thought she had to sign them.  I wanted to scream, No!! No!! NO!! you don’t have to! And if you do sign it this quick you will probably jump into another relationship and do this again!!!  Slow Down!! Just wait for a while! Let your heart heal.  But no, they don’t think there is hope and they jump off this cliff.

HB 684 Allies for Children’s Hope would not necessarily apply to her, because it is really about the parents divorcing with children, that are not in an abusive situation, but just decide to break it up.  I keep thinking about this bill.  Right now my friend Greg doesn’t think it can pass this year.  But what if it did?  Could we make a difference for 5% of the families that are break up and give them hope, just by slowing things down?  What if this bill Really turned things around? Click here to read Georgia HB 684.  Let me know what you think.  Do you think you could help us in forming the army to let our legislators know we want to see a change?


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